My blog is designed for me to record the things I want to teach my boys…things I think they need to become men. Maybe, I need to try to define what it means to be a man.
A true man is able to put others first. He thinks of his family, friends and society before his own needs, and most certainly before his own wants. Does that mean he neglects himself…absolutely not! True men need to operate out of a fullness of heart that comes from a loving, healthy upbringing, healthy relationships with other men, and a healthy expression of their masculinity.
Two things here: First, there is a lot of “healthy” in that last statement. What is flawed with many men is their lack of healthy relationships, starting with their own dad and continuing through their friends. Now, I’m far from perfect, but my goal is to raise (yes, I know it is technically rear) my kids in a healthy and loving environment. I know I won’t be perfect, but love does cover a lot of faults.
Secondly, there is an attack in our society on masculinity, but this attack isn’t against true masculinity.
It’s an attack against this false sense of masculine, man behavior demonstrated through these shootings we see.
It’s demonstrated through these men who are married with children, yet asleep because of boredom…how is this harmful? It causes men to disengage with their wife, kids, etc. This leads to the next generation of men not being fully man.
It also demonstrates itself through unhealthy sexuality. This includes so much, and I won’t get into it all right now.
My primary goal is to document conversations I want to have with my boys. Things I wish I knew when I was younger. If this can help others, great, but that is not my primary object. My primary objective is my boys and only my boys.
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